You Can't Help Who You Love 💕

It is hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone if your heart still does. “You can’t help who you love.” Some say it’s an excuse used when we love the wrong person. Is that the case? I'm not implying that just because you can't help but love someone that you're in a horrible relationship. What many don’t know or fail to acknowledge is that love is a choice. Love happens to us if we open ourselves to it. So that’s where the decision begins. The choice to love starts at two stages in the process. It comes before and after we fall in love: Before, when we can choose which people to meet and date, and after when we can choose whether to continue seeing them or break it off.

Of course, sometimes feelings take you by surprise, and in even rarer cases this may happen mutually, become stronger, and potentially irresistible.

Much of romance and love is out of our control. As important as it is to recognize this, it’s just as important to acknowledge the choices we do have. We are responsible to ourselves to make these choices well, which is especially difficult in an area of our lives that is defined by emotion.

We don’t want to be completely rational about love and romance. I'm saying that if we can achieve the right balance of emotion and reason, as well as recognize when we should exert control and when we should love freely, we can steer our love lives away from inappropriate entanglements and disastrous people, and enjoy all the joy, warmth, and intimacy we deserve.

Are you walking around thinking that you’re just going to accidentally fall in love one day? Nobody accidentally falls in love.

You do meet people, and while chemistry, attraction, and emotional connection can hit quickly, you can help who you love. Love is indeed a choice. That choice is 100% yours.

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Decide to constantly spice up your sex life.🔥

Your spark is in there somewhere. There comes a time in any relationship, regardless of how happy you both are, that the sex component can take a dip. Whether it's hormonal, stress-related, or you've just been with the same partner for so long that no amount of pillow talk or date nights will make you want to get intimate. When things get a little boring in the boudoir, though, there are ways to spice things up.

There's nothing wrong with being open about your sexuality. In any relationship, variety is really vital. Find unique ways to make your time in the bedroom or anywhere else with your companion more enjoyable. I'm not suggesting you abandon your old faves, but you should mix it up now and then. Of course, stick to the tried-and-true recipes, but add a twist by including a new ingredient. Doing the opposite of what you usually do can feel exciting. It maintains the sense of anticipation between you two.

What you want to do is agitate your partner's insides and keep them hot even while you're separated. When you're not together, there's nothing like reliving a passionate moment from the night before and exclaiming, "Oh my Gosh, about last night." Your mind goes...hmm hmm. This will not only spice things up, but it will also inspire your partner to perform much better, and he or she will want to satisfy you all of the time. And that is for everything.

You’re probably used to taking it all off when you have sex, but leaving something on—from a fierce pair of heels to a sweet string of pearls—getting almost naked can bring out your sexy side. Men, try going commando, and unzip your jeans!

It's great to switch locations. Have sex on the kitchen counter. Get it on in the hallway. Do it on the couch or in your bedroom closet. It doesn’t matter where, just pick a place that isn’t your usual spot. The new smells, sounds, lighting, and textures will help keep your sex life on its toes. Have a faux affair with your partner. Plan a date with your significant other and act like you’re meeting up with your lover, while you both pretend to leave your partners at home. Use your imagination! According to intimacy experts, part of the reason why couples cheat is to feel more sexually uninhibited, so who knows where a faux affair can lead you. Even prepping for it may make you hot with anticipation. There are so many ways to love each other to keep the fire burning. Be determined to keep that spark.

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